Shanell Betts, Tyrie Cole, Ohboibk, ohboiedits

a series of unfortunate events

since 2021 I have had a cyber stalker. someone who I do not know.  someone who is obsessed with me. someone who has been reaching out to people and entities that I work with to doxx me and it has happened again.

we have screenshots of the email and an email address and a name.

people that I thought I was in community with, were more happy to open up their mouths,telling absurd lies too slander my name.

being neurodivergent has always meant my disposal. I have spent my entire life trying to understand just what it is that I do to people that makes them automatically want to take advantage of me. and two year ago I finally got a diagnosis and the answers.

I have spent my life being hated and manipulated by most persons around me including my immediate and extended family. and again do come here with performative platitudes. I am not writing this because I want your sympathy. these are the facts of my life.

I am tired. I don’t want to be posting about this anymore but this has triggered an OCD episode in me. It has caused me to ruminate and obsess over a stranger. It places me in the realm of hyper-vigilance and triggered response which is exacerbates my cluster c.

this person has been able to mess with every aspect of my life, they have kept me from further work and profit. they are working with another individual. since they are so obsessed with me I am going to give them the spotlight they have been desperately craving from me.

they created 3 false profiles (maybe more) across multiple platforms in order to harm me and create a false timeline of lies. I had to go thru legal channels to have those profiles removed.

I do not want ya’ll in the comments being nasty.

You can direct all you comments to me.

If you know this person please send me a DM, there is nothing that needs to be listed in the comments.

This isn’t a reality TV show, which so many of ya’ll come to social media for, to stir up nastiness that is misplaced, in order to satiate the horrible humans you are in community with.

I know that there are persons here who are still following me and are reporting back to this person. They are likely still here as well.

So hey, hi, hello.

I will figure out who ya’ll are as well.

to Shanell or Tyrie Cole I’ve had enough. I know who you are, now.  But I have no clue who you are. How weird is that?

The emotions I have for you are WIDE. You have twisted the reality of a neurodivergent person in order to justify and validate false stories, made up timelines, and bolstered yourself to be someone you are not.

You are a deeply unwell 37 year old human being.

I am sending you deep healing. No one can offer that to you except you. It seems that you obsess over a lot of things and people when you should return that distracted energy to yourself.

names

Shanell

Tyrie Cole

identities

brujx

visual designer

boi

queer

non-binary

non monagamous

wanderlust extraordinaire

photographer

event planner

glitter body oil maker (unicorn oils)

prefered platforms

tumblr @themoonisfree (you have to force search to get it to pop, this was previously ohboibk account)

IG and social accounts across the web

@ohboibk

@ohboiedits (account they were contacting folx from to doxx me that is deactivated)

@fzedmag - Fazed Magazine

Events

A Seat at Our Table ASAOT4

The Black Out (Brooklyn Fete)

Location

Brooklyn

Known associates

The Regal People, Gem

Brandon @ MusicMusing

@ Cheymodee

Guetty Antiste @ EmpanadaAssassin

TJ ( Tassiana) Wills (thechubbygoddess/praxis papi)

Da’Shaun L Harrison (Belly of the Beast)

Ebony Oldham (UCLA Gender Studies)

Dr. Jane Grant PT, DPT (Kentucky)

Jessy Wilson (singer)

@ TheDarkestHue

Anna Haas (nashville)

Jenn Cortez (The Behive Salon Minneapolis CLOSED)

Hunter Zuli Blk Palate

I am aware of all the persons that followed this account back and chose to engage illegally.

There are others, including family members, Tyrie screenshotted (and reposted), the conversations they were having with these persons, who thought they were being nasty and private and that I wouldn’t find out.

what’s dark will always come to light.

every single accusation that this person has made is a lie.

I am not interested in ya’lls disgusting parasocial relationships.

nobody has the ability to tender care for thousands of people and that includes me.

most of the folx who find themselves here in social space are liars and are not embodied enough to realize how deeply social media can turn you into a monster, simply because you feel you deserve clout of a stranger.

i’m not even gonna talk about all the isms and phobias that role/roll into this.

we are already going to a lawyer, but this has to be shared here because this has to stop, my well being has been wrecked because of this person.

this is a part of my story and I am done being bullied by these folx that ya’ll place up as saviors, who are anything but. learn how to save yourself.

I’m also tired of NYers and big city folx who stay obsessed with me, stealing from me, but have done very little except for provide trauma and harm.

ya’ll can have your big rotten molded apple of a city. it’s not a flex what you have to learn to do in those sorts of places to survive. you’re not some of the most excellent of the excellent because you’ve managed to make in a place that tares  humanity to shreds.

I don’t want to be posting this in the middle of us trying to meet a super dire housing goal. My fear is that you all will remove your care because of a stranger. Someone I don’t even know but who others have trusted, by the default of anti Blackness.

This fear is valid because this is what I have been experiencing from friends and other folx over the last 4 years dealing with this mess of a human.

I am not okay but I will be okay.

I’m not carrying this human with me into the rest of this year.

You wanted attention, you got it. It’s time for you to unlatch from me. You never had my consent in the first place.